How to Give a Wedding Shower

Give the best wedding shower possible!

By FamilyTime

 In the lead up to a wedding, the round of parties keeps the bride and groom and their families and friends very busy. A traditional wedding shower is one of the most memorable parties of all.

Showers are designed to help the bride-to-be prepare for her life as a young wife. Traditionally, the bride is "showered" with gifts and good wishes, although today's young woman very likely already manages her own household.

Despite modern realities, most brides love the idea of a shower. Here's how to give her one she will treasure forever.

Traditionally, a wedding shower is given two months before the wedding, usually on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon. In today’s fast-paced world, the shower may be given closer to the wedding date. Typically, the shower is a surprise party, scheduled early enough in the afternoon for a light lunch.

All female wedding guests should be sent an invitation to the shower. In most instances, the maid of honor hosts the shower and is responsible for sending the invitations three or four weeks before the party. She does not have to give the shower in her home — it can be held at any close relative's or friend's house or at a club or restaurant.

The invitations should include information such as the bride's registry list; her wedding colors; and directions to the shower.

Guests should be requested to RSVP at least a week before the shower. This will allow the hostess to prepare for the actual number of guests.

Decorating is one of the most pleasurable aspects of throwing a shower. Any decorations should  tastefully reflect the colors the bride has selected for the wedding. Table linens, flowers, candles, balloons — even streamers! — should be coordinated.

If the wedding has a theme, pick up on that and incorporate it into the decorating scheme. For instance, the bride might be planning an old-fashioned garden wedding, a sleek city wedding, or a casual affair at the beach. Let the shower reflect the mood of the wedding.

Be sure to have enough seating for the guests. Position a chair to be the brides', where she will sit to open her gifts.

A simple, light menu is best for a shower. Make sure the food is delicious and beautifully presented.

Consider, for instance, serving quiches, a tossed green salad with a lemony vinaigrette, and finger sandwiches. End the meal with a pretty bowl of fruit accompanied by petit fours, meringues or fancy cookies.

Don't neglect hot tea and coffee, iced tea, juices, soda, and water. Offer chilled white wine and, for a special touch, Champagne or a Champagne punch.

Very few homes can accommodate more than a dozen guests for a sit-down meal. Therefore, serve the food as a buffet, arranging it so that the guests can help themselves effortlessly.

A well planned shower will be a joy to give, a pleasure to attend, and a lovely memory for all involved — particularly the bride.