I Hate School!

If you hear this every day or so, help is on the way!

By FamilyTime

 How often have you heard this proclamation? Do you believe it or are you able to laugh it off as normal childhood dramatics?

Nearly every child claims he would rather stay home than go to school. Luckily, the reality is that most kids actually enjoy their daily routine, their friends, and their activities.

Unhappily, this is not always the case.

Without question, some children have genuine trouble with school. Getting them to go becomes a daily struggle for their frustrated parents. Does this sound like your child?

Look for the Signs
First, determine if your young student is posturing or honestly dislikes school. If he gripes and grumbles every morning but manages to get out the door, backpack filled and shoes tied, his objections probably are related more to the hassle of leaving home.

If your child complains about homework and teachers, but nevertheless arrives home in a good mood and happily chatters about her friends, she is adjusting normally.

But, if your child complains of stomach aches or headaches; looks tired and worn out from lack of sleep; loses his appetite; or loses interest in his friends and family activities, you could have a very real problem.

Listen, Then Act
Encourage your son or daughter to talk about school. Even kindergartners can articulate distress. Listen for the underlying fears and insecurities. She may say she "hates" her teacher but the problem may be she is unsure of her reading or math skills.

You child may insist that no one likes him but in fact he's frightened of a schoolyard bully or hasn't been asked to join the playground soccer game.

Make note of what your child says about school. Wait a week or so and then ask again. Once you decide that there is a pattern or a persistent problem, call your child's teacher. Approach the conversation as a problem-solving one -- not a time to lay blame.

Consider visiting the classroom. Spending a morning observing the class could be extremely helpful. If you have time, offer to help with a classroom project or trip. Your participation will please your child.

Most of these problems need a little time for adjustment and the attention of both teachers and parents. When the adults take the situation seriously and work together with the child to make life easier, most kids who hated school start to enjoy it.